MANY men especially those in Lusaka who have taken a few notes from Moroccan football star Achraf Hakimi, and placed business over love have and been urged to prioritise honesty and transparency in their marriages, rather than hiding assets from their wives by registering them in their parents’names.
Lusaka lawyer, Simon Mwila has condemned the practice of hiding assets, highlighting the extreme measures some men take in their efforts to keep their wealth out of reach.
Mwila expressed shock that the length of this practice is staggering as some register assets in the names of siblings, friends or even in companies run by their acquaintances all in the name of security.
He acknowledged that some do this with the mindset of “in case madam apena (my wife goes crazy) she will go with nothing.”
But Mwila highlighted a different perspective on the matter asserting that as a man, it is important to remember that in an event of divorce, your children’s welfare is your top priority.
Contrary to what some men might believe, Mwila noted that empowering your wives and providing them with the resources they need is ultimately beneficial for your children even after divorce.
He explained that when mothers are supported and financially secure, they are better equipped to provide for their children’s needs and to be present and engaged in their lives.
“So instead of hiding your assets, consider investing in your family’s future by being open and transparent with your wife,” he wrote.
He noted how a lack of proper estate planning could lead to devastating consequences for the children of a first marriage.
“If a man dies without a will or a clear plan, his second wife or her children may be able to claim the majority of his assets, leaving the children from the first marriage at a significant disadvantage,” Mwila noted.
“On the other hand, your ex-wife …even if she remarries, she is more likely to keep property she received during the marriage for your children because a mother does not forget her children.”
Mwila reiterated that the real source of security lies not in hiding assets but in cultivating a relationship with one’s spouse built on trust, respect, and open communication.
“True security doesn’t come from secrets or deception instead, it comes from establishing a strong and enduring foundation for your family by working with your wife, respecting her dignity, and providing for your children.”
“By empowering your woman, you are empowering your own legacy,” he added.
Mwila emphasised that hiding assets in an attempt to protect yourself could ultimately harm your children if it leads to financial instability.
By Sharon Zulu
Kalemba April 17, 2025
