WHILE some women are busy budgeting for Brazilian wigs, acrylic nails and eyelash refills using other people’s sons’ salaries, a Lusaka woman has dropped a verbal slipper slap on that entire lifestyle.
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Namatama Lubinda, a daughter of former Justice Minister Given Lubinda, has caused a stir on social media after boldly calling out the culture of women expecting men to finance their lifestyles, branding the practice as gold digging.
In her fiery post, Lubinda who is also a mental health advocate, took to her facebook page and made it clear that being spoilt by a man is not a crime, but expecting a man to cover every personal expense, while dating, is not a right but a privilege.
The outspoken daughter of the former Kabwata lawmaker, said she has no appetite for being maintained like a car on a service plan, simply because she is in a relationship and believes such expectations reflect a survival mindset that she never grew up with.
“I was raised on love, not on survival,” she wrote.
“Before a man marries you, every single Kwacha that he spends on you is an act of kindness, not an obligation.”
While many girls were being taught to pose next to expensive plates of food they did not pay for, Lubinda who is also a mental health activist and weight loss coach, spoke of her father’s influence in her life, saying he raised her to chase independence like it was a closing down sale at Manda Hill.
True to that motto, Lubinda revealed that she started her first business in Grade 9, selling lollipops just to earn pocket money during the holidays.
By 2015, she was already running a human hair business, back when Brazilian weaves were still a luxury item in Zambia.
Now holding a degree in mental health and clinical psychiatry, she has chosen to chart her own path as a weight loss coach while preparing to enter formal employment later.
However, the backlash came fast and furious from her fellow women, with some labeling her a ‘pick me’, a woman who seeks male approval by criticising other women.
In her response, Lubinda said she would gladly wear the ‘pick me’ tag over being seen as a professional beggar or gold digger as her self-respect weighs heavier than the noisy approval of social media crowds.
By George Musonda
Kalemba April 30, 2025
