A LUSAKA sexually deprived wife is demanding tor equal attention from her husband, insisting that she should be receiving the same amount of equal time and affection that he extends to his first wife.
33-year-old Eneless Chulu, a resident from Kabanana area revealed the emotional disorder that she’s facing as a result of her 47-year-old husband identified as Eliad Mtonga, who she claimed has completely forgotten about her and no longer shows any love towards her.
Chulu lamented that Mtonga has been preferring to spend his days with his first wife at her residence and not her.
This is in a case where Chulu went the legal route to resolve her marital problems with her husband.
Chulu admitted to the Matero Local Court that her husband’s absence has robbed her of intimacy and affection, leading to long periods of loneliness and isolation.
She stated that her husband has been depriving her of sex and it is having a detrimental effect on her well being and health.
Chulu revealed that Mtonga would disappear for weeks, sometimes even months and whenever he returns from his first wife, he seems to vanish from her life.
“He might come back for a short time, but then he’s gone again. It’s as if I don’t exist for him anymore,” she said.
She also lamented that Mtonga used to provide her with support she needed both emotionally and financially but that support has faded away like a distant memory.
“Now, he seems to only care about his first wife, neglecting my needs and leaving me to fend for myself hence, I feel so abandoned.”
Chulu demanded that she only wants fair distribution of time and days with her husband like what used to be done before.
But in his defense, Mtonga disclosed that Chulu’s habit of sharing their private conversations with her sister-in-laws have sown seeds of conflict within the family and exacerbated the strain on their marriage.
“Every time I do something nice for Chulu, she shares this with my sisters and then it’s passed on to my first wife. This has caused a rift between the two wives and it’s created chaos for all of us,” he revealed.
Mtonga emphasised his desire for independence in his relationships with each wife, underscoring his efforts to minimise friction between them.
“I have taken steps to give both wives a sense of autonomy in our family and I reached an extent of building separate houses for them to minimise conflicts, and I think it’s only fair that they don’t interfere in my relationships with each other,” he said.
“Chulu doesn’t need to know about the things I do for my first wife, and vice versa.’
Presiding over the case, Senior Magistrate Lewis Mumba commended Mtonga for observing the legal requirements when marrying two wives, encouraging him to continue following proper procedures with both wives.
Magistrate Mumba also warned Chulu against sharing personal details with her sister-in-laws, emphasising the importance of maintaining boundaries and secrecy in her marriage.
“Parties have been reconciled and advised to live in harmony as husband and wife,” Magistrate Mumba ruled.
By Sharon Zulu
Kalemba June 12, 2025
