AFTER a long-standing union of 17-years of hustling together through thick and thin with her husband, a Matero woman faced with the prospect of becoming a polygamous wife, has courageously decided to put an end to her marriage, prioritising her personal values and beliefs.
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38-year-old Monica Musonda decided she would rather walk away from her marriage than share her husband with another woman.
Musonda stormed the Matero Local Court, presenting her case before Magistrate Harriet Mulenga with a firm declaration that she would not tolerate her husband, 45-year-old Vincent Zulu’s alleged intention to take on another wife and bring polygamy into their 17-year-old marriage.
Musonda recounted that her marriage, which started in 2008, was not perfect but had no serious problems until Zulu dropped the bombshell that he wanted to add another wife to the family.
“We have endured many difficulties together and now that we have finally achieved some measure of success, my husband wants to bring another woman into our marriage. I deeply love my husband, but I cannot accept sharing him with someone else,” she declared.
She questioned her husband’s motivation, stating that he should have asked for another wife when they were still suffering, not now that they have been blessed.
Musonda shared that their marital woes actually began with Zulu’s unfaithfulness.
“When you have a girlfriend, we argue and when you don’t, we are ok. You were dating Christine and now you are saying that Maggie’s is the one you want to marry,’ she said.
In response to Musonda’s accusations, Zulu took the opportunity to present his side of the story, claiming that his motivation for pursuing polygamy was rooted in his wife’s perceived lack of peacefulness.
Zulu asserted that the main problem in their marriage is that Musonda does not respect him and whenever she starts talking, it’s always with insults hence, rather than divorcing her, he decided to marry another woman.
“Divorce would be a drastic measure, so instead, I decided to take another wife. I believe that if I have a second wife, I will finally have some peace in my own home,” he said.
“It’s not now that we have been having our issues. I do love my wife.”
In an attempt to gain further insight into the situation, Magistrate Mulenga invited Zulu’s mother who was present in the courtroom, to provide her perspective on the contentious matter.
She revealed that she had attempted to mediate between her son and his wife but to no avail, stating that she tried to convince Musonda to accept a polygamous marriage, but she refuses to listen.
“I understand that she doesn’t want to share her husband, but this is our culture. My son deserves peace in his own home, and if taking another wife will give him that, then I support him,” Zulu’s mother said.
In passing her judgment, magistrate Mulenga stated that these are petty issues that can be resolved by mature adults through effective communication and compromise.
“These are not impossible obstacles. I urge both parties to approach this situation with maturity and understanding. I cannot force Musonda to accept polygamy, nor can I compel Zulu to abandon his desire for a second wife,” she said.
The matter was further adjourned to a later date for possible reconciliation, pending judgement.
By Sharon Zulu
Kalemba July 17, 2025
