A LUSAKA married man has recounted how his five-year-old marriage has turned into a living nightmare as his wife allegedly demanded that he engage into sexual acts with their two-year-old daughter, so that she could avoid intimacy in their marriage.
34-year-old Harrison Banda, a general worker from Zingalume area and a now distressed father, revealed that his wife Georgina Banda aged 30, would place their minor daughter between them during the night, forcing him to to have sex with the child while denying him intimacy with her.
Harrison recounted to the Matero Local Court how Georgina would cruelly insist that their minor daughter would perform better in bed then she would.
This is in a case where Harrison took legal action against Georgina, seeking to terminate their marriage due to an absence of physical intimacy, as he has been unable to fill her honey pot.
Harrison revealed that his wife demanded that their intimacy moments should be limited to four times per month only, without giving any justification as she would turn down his advances and tightly control him.
He disclosed that Georgina would bring their two-year-old daughter into the situation, daring him to engage in sexual acts with her, saying “she is also a girl and you should have sex with her.”
“Georgina would also dismiss my attempts to initiate intimacy by saying that her feelings for me were gone. She made me feel unwanted and insignificant. It was as if my role as her husband was meaningless to her,” he stated.
He explained that when she wasn’t using their daughter to block his advances, she would physically obstruct him with a blanket, describing it as a symbolic barrier between them.
Harrison further claimed that his wife would disappear from their home for long periods of time without explanation, expecting him to have a meal ready for her upon her return.
“I would be left in the dark about where she was going or when she would return and despite my efforts to keep the peace in our home,l. If I didn’t have nshima prepared when she cones back, she would make it a huge problem. It felt like nothing I did was ever good enough,” he recalled.
“She refuses to sleep in the same room with me, choosing to sleep in the living room instead. Whenever I tried to initiate intimacy, she would reject me outright hence, it felt like I was being pushed away, no matter how hard I tried to connect with her,” Harrison shared.
In response to Harrison’s allegations, Georgina claimed that her husband had granted her permission to pursue sexual relationships with other men.
She also claimed that despite her efforts to fulfill her marital duties, her husband was often distant and disengaged from their relationship, remaining glued to his phone instead of spending quality time with her.
“I tried to be a good wife, but he would just sit there on his phone, ignoring me,” Georgina claimed.
“I cooked for him, cleaned the house, but he never seemed to appreciate any of it. He was more interested in his phone than me,” she said.
However, Harrison strongly denied having ever given his consent or approval, dismissing Georgina’s claims as a weak attempt to deflect blame and justify her actions.
And presiding over the case, Senior Magistrate Lewis Mumba delivered a pointed reminder of the fundamental importance of sexual intimacy in a marriage and the severe repercussions of child sexual abuse.
“A marriage without intimacy is no marriage at all, and engaging a child for sexual acts is both abhorrent and criminal,” he stated.
Magistrate Mumba cautioned that it is unacceptable to impose conditions on when a couple should engage in intimacy within a marriage.
“To tell your partner that you have no interest in them is devastating, as it makes them question their worth and place within the marriage,” he said.
He further granted both parties a divorce, ruling in favour of joint custody for their children and ordering Harrison to provide K800 in child maintenance and K500 in spousal maintenance for a period of 12 months.
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By Sharon Zulu
Kalemba June 11, 2025
