Psychologists blame unresolved sexual trauma for defilement, NGOCC disputes

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THE Psychology Association of Zambia (PAZ) has revealed that unresolved sexual trauma in men play a part in contributing to the rising cases of defilement.

PAZ publicity secretary, Pekelo Mwiya says men often harbour past abuse experiences, leading to psychopathic behaviors.

Recently, reports have circulated on various media platforms of men and fathers sexually taking advantage of young girls. One of the most recent cases is that of a 39 year old father defiling his 10 year old biological daughter whilst his wife attended prayers at a neighbours’ house.

“We have seen cases where this man was abused by the aunt as a boy and no one knew.” Mwiya explained. “he developed with the idea that women are for sexual pleasure.”

He urged civil society organizations to prioritise addressing sexual abuse for both genders.

Mwiya expressed disappointment NGOs prioritising only women and the girl child on sexual matters while setting aside the boys.

“Men do not have a platform to talk about the experiences they had in their tender age (as well as their) sexual urges… We need to give both gender equal voice ranges to cry for help when need arises,” said Mwiya.

However, Non – Governmental Gender Organisations Coordinating Council (NGOCC) chairperson Grace Sinkamba questioned this reasoning, suggesting other factors like alcohol abuse and cultural practices, pornography play a significant role.

“That reason (boys abused at young ages leading contributing to high defilement and abuse cases) might be valid but we need to do a case study in order to ascertain it.”

Because if this was true, why don’t women who experienced sexual abuse in their tender age go around raping young boys,” she questioned.

“Everyone has issues and sexual abuse issues that happened long ago but it cannot be the main drive for defilement.”

She said cultural practices such as ‘Chikolola’ in Southern province and ‘Musasa’ in Eastern province advertise young girls after keeping them in camp for teachings and later made to dance half naked in public (as part of adult initiations).” she explained

Sinkamba further refuted allegations of men lacking platforms to express themselves concerning various emotional issues. She said NGOCC had a sister organisation mandated to help men undergo such problems.

“The fact is girls and women are largely abused in society but this is not to say we turn a blind eye or ear to boys and men,” said Sinkamba.

Meanwhile Nelson Banda, the national coordinator for Zambia National Men’s Network, acknowledged the possibility of childhood abuse influencing later behavior and emphasised the importance of non-judgmental support for men facing emotional challenges.

“We are currently working with Young boys, teaching them to view women as their counterparts and not as punching bags or sex machines.” he explained.

“We have also opened counseling sessions for Men at our Men counseling centre so as to understand and help Men with different emotional problems in society”

He revealed that last year, Men’s network attended to about 1,800 Men with different emotional problems.

By Elesani Phiri

Kalemba March 23, 2024


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