With the coming of social media, it has evolved nearly inconceivable for someone to have a private life. In this article today I want to share some things we must never share with everyone later on even post on social media.
1. Your Secrets
We should always be careful about who we choose to disclose personal secrets. Can they be trusted to keep your secrets and not exiguous them for gossip or use them against you the next time you get into a fight? If you’re not careful about who you trust, it could lead to a lot of humiliation, misery, and heart-breaking for you down the road, thus, better to be safe than sorry and just keep it to yourself.
2. Other People’s Secrets.
If someone trusts you enough to tell you something in confidence, it simply wouldn’t be right to do anything to break their trust or jeopardize your relationship with them. Imagine how humiliated and doubled cross you might feel if someone did that to you!
3. Your family problems.
Every family has problems. The issues between you and your family stay between you and your family. No use getting other people entangled; it’ll only stir up more trouble than it’s worth! So next time someone tries to stick their nose in your family’s business, simply navigate the conversation to another topic or tell them you’d prefer to keep it private.
4. Your relationship issues.
It’s profitable to keep your relationship issues private. Complaining too considerably about your partner is only going to paint them badly, and although your anger and frustration might pass, others and your relatives might not be so forgiving. They might also think you confiding your romantic troubles means that they have a say in your relationship, which they don’t.
5. Your income/financial situation
It’s something of an unspoken social rule that it’s generally deemed rude to talk about money. Because no matter how much you make (or aren’t making), talking about your financial situation to other people is bound to either make them feel jealous, uncomfortable, or sorry for you. Complaining about not having money or comparing how much money you make with other people is never a good idea. Thereupon, there’s not much they can do about it, so what’s the point? Better to just keep that between you and your bank account.
6. Your fears and weaknesses.
Talking about our fears and weaknesses takes us to a very helpless place, and it’s a side of us we shouldn’t show to just anyone. Some people can be incredibly two-faced and might just make fun of you for it behind your back, while others might try to manipulate and exploit you when given the chance. Others still might not understand or sympathize with you, which is only going to make you feel worse. Thus, before you tell anyone your worries or past mistakes, you need to be sure that they can be trusted.
7. Your dreams and goals
Ultimately, but possibly most notably, it’s assumably for the best that you keep all your dreams and goals in life to yourself. Because the more people you share them with, the less motivated you’re likely to be because people invariably have something to say, and if you invite them into the conversation, they might talk you out of your dream. You deserve to nurture your dreams with the peace of mind that only solitude can bring.
Dr. Humphrey Mutiti is a Pastor, conference speaker, instructor, and lecturer at Great Commission Theological Institute, an author of several books, and has a Ph.D. Doctorate in Theology, a Ph.D. Doctorate in Ministry, and is a student in the School of Law.