Author: Joan B. Mute

…Introspection Time with JBM

ON a bright shining morning a couple of months ago I was confronted with what can be termed as ‘petty’ due to nature of the circumstance I was faced with. Being made to sit before my superiors demanding for my exculpation sent feelings of dismay and shock as the situation started to get out of hand-at least from my personal analysis.

The truth of the matter is that we all view life differently. What may be deemed petty to another person may not be to you and vice versa. Getting mad over the most trivial things other people do towards us happens all the time, and only differ in the way we handle such.

If you were to take an inventory or come up with a list of some things that are trivial but sends you off you will be amazed at what they are.

Stemming from the above, this article is about how view experiences deemed as petty or trivial and what we need to bear in mind as life’s lesson-the need to go beyond our circumstances.

Great mentors such as Robin Sharma remind us that actually other people’s opinions of you and is actually none of your business. This is true in that you are not defined by their opinions and neither will they define your capabilities based on things they do towards you.

In other words, you are much more than that and so endeavor to have the discipline to clean out all energy draining people in your life and you can rise to the level of your associations.

Another empowering principle is that what distinguishes people with an extraordinary character from the rest of us is how they respond when life throws inevitable and curves at them.

In amidst of pettiness the need to fill our brains with giant dreams so that there is no space for petty pursuits remains key to our success.

This is so because often time’s life is seen to test big dreamers, who also are passionate revolutionaries, through what is deemed as trivial or petty.

Would you be surprised therefore that on daily basis life tends to reveal windows of opportunities even through petty issues and happenings are blown out of proportion?

But our destiny tends to be defined by how we respond to those windows. Out of every crisis is the opportunity lying bare right before you. Think again, and take an introspection of the situation or your present circumstances.

Whatever could have befallen you, the question is-what enlightenment has it brought? What ideas have come up as a result? What areas of your life have been challenged for the better? These can be thought provoking questions you may consider embracing. Go beyond your present circumstances no matter how much you feel affected negatively.

Look again, because nothing happens for nothing. Every experience large and small is meant to improve you or propel you to another level in terms of your imaginations, capabilities, discipline, self-development and the list is endless.

It is worth reminding ourselves that life is series of accumulated moments and if you miss them you actually miss your life. In fact truth be told, problems are only experienced by people who are alive, so there is much more to be grateful of beyond your present circumstances.

Yes that experience seemingly trivial but upsetting to you is part of those life’s moments and you would not be caught in the web if you were lifeless.

Face the situation with confidence and go beyond the pain it exerts on you. You will be amazed at how that inner giant in you will manifest its resilience in ways unknown.

Your present circumstances don't determine where you can go; they merely determine where you start’ .Nido Qubein

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Author: Joan Beulah Mute, is a Lecturer in Research Methods, Sociology and Law and Ethics in Public Health at the University of Lusaka.

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